The Myth of Being Fully Healed: Why Your Journey Is Enough

I recently listened to an episode of Finding the Ones’s podcast titled Release Shame and Blockages around Sex, and it cracked me open. It got me thinking—really thinking—and before I knew it, I was journaling. At first, it was about releasing sexual shame, but it quickly spiraled into something much deeper for me. Something raw and real.

For me, personally, I know I carry sexual trauma. Yet, even at this point in my healing journey, I’m still not sure where it comes from. And honestly? That blows my mind. How can I not know where my own sexual trauma stems from? And then the shame sets in—the shame and taboo of not having it all figured out.

The voices in my head say: “How can you help others heal when you haven’t even healed the basics, like your own sexuality?” and “Don’t you dare talk about that, because who would want to work with you if they knew how many unhealed wounds you still have?” Yeah. That’s my truth. But you know what? I refuse to listen to those voices. I know where they come from: fear. Ego.

Lately, I’ve heard people say things like, “If you haven’t fully healed yourself, you shouldn’t be facilitating or holding space for others.” Statements like this feed shame, holding people back from stepping into their purpose as healers. I get it—yes, it’s important to take care of our own healing before we guide others, but if you believe you need to be completely healed to start teaching or helping others, you will never start. You’ll die before you even take the first step.

Do you truly believe you’ll be fully healed in this lifetime? I don’t. I believe we can come a long way, yes, but completely healed? I hope for it, I wish for it—God, please prove me wrong—but I find it hard to imagine. And while that might sound a bit negative, that’s not where I’m coming from. For me, healing is like peeling layers upon layers. We peel one, revisit others, and all the while face new traumas or situations that require more healing.

Saying you’re done healing is like saying you’re done being a student of life. And to be clear, I’m not suggesting we need to be in a constant spiral of deep healing. We have plenty of time to enjoy life, to be happy, to have fun. Healing can look different for everyone, and we can work through it in so many ways. But for now, I stand by my belief that, at least for us as a collective, we won’t be fully healed in this lifetime. And that’s okay, because we’ve got many more to go. That’s the journey. Never forget to enjoy the journey ;)

We are all students of life, enrolled in Earth School. We’re here for a reason, with our own DNA to activate, transmute, and to heal. We are responsible for our lives and how we choose to live them. We are. It’s our choice.

And when I see people waking up—confronting their darkness, facing the things they buried deep inside—I see heroes. These are the real heroes of our time. They deserve the gold medals, the speeches, the recognition. I believe it’s people like them—people like us—who are stepping into a new kind of leadership. We’re the ones who ask why, the ones who lead by example, not by control or manipulation.

This is our time. The universe has evened the odds. Hidden truths are being revealed, and even though the powers-that-be distract us with wars, division, and chaos, I see so many of us watching the world burn with open eyes, knowing that it’s out of this chaos that mass awakenings will rise.

There’s purpose in this. And it’s bigger than any of us.

Reflecting on all of this, I realize that what started as a simple journaling session about sexual shame opened the door to something deeper: the shame we carry around not being "healed enough." This episode of The Morel's reminded me that healing isn’t linear or ever truly complete. We are continuously evolving, continuously shedding layers of what no longer serves us. And that’s okay.

So, if you’re on your healing journey and feel the pressure to have it all figured out before you help others—know this: you don’t need to be "perfectly healed" to make a difference. We are all works in progress. You can still hold space, you can still facilitate, and you can still be the light someone else needs, even while you’re healing your own wounds.

Healing is not about the destination—it’s about showing up, as you are, wherever you are. And that’s enough.

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